Aug. 18th, 2006

alfvaen: floatyhead (Default)
I meant to update a week or two ago, but I guess I've been busy and/or distracted. Enough of that, though, I'm sure it's dull to read journal entries about why people aren't writing journal entries. So I'll move on to the exciting bit.

Two weeks ago, I got home from work anticipating the coming week off. Nicole went out for a quick walk before supper. However, when she was stepping down into the entryway, she lost her footing and went crashing down into the door. We rushed her to the hospital, where after a mere couple of hours waiting in Grey Nuns Emergency, the X-rays confirmed that she had, in fact, broken her right arm. The break was on her upper arm quite close to the shoulder, so they couldn't put a cast on it, but it hadn't slipped out of alignment, so they gave her a sling and a swath to keep her arm fairly immobile close to her chest.

So the past two weeks have been interesting. By now, Nicole has regained a bit more usage, but the first few days the arm was quite sore, and she was living on Tylenol 3's. She couldn't bend over, so the kids and I had to do all the picking up. She needed help getting dressed and undressed, and forget about doing much in the way of writing with only her left hand. I've even had to help with the cooking, which is about my least favourite thing ever. Oh, and I get to do all the driving, too. She also couldn't lie down--and still can't, really--so she's been sleeping in the recliner in the living room.

Now she's mostly off the painkillers, she doesn't need the swath all the time, and she can take the arm out of the sling for brief periods, particularly to do the exercises the specialist she saw last week assigned her. Her arm is quite weak, and having been stuck in the sling for so long, she can't straighten it out fully yet, but all in all she's doing quite well. Another month or so and things may be back to normal. We hope.

We didn't have too much of a vacation, obviously, not that we'd planned for anything too elaborate. Still, our tentative plan of taking three or four day trips to places around Edmonton was reduced to just one--the Stettler to Big Valley train on the holiday Monday, which we'd already bought tickets for. That was okay, though Big Valley is not much of a tourist draw, at least when there's not a big rock concert going on there(which is most of the time, frankly). Nicole's parents came with us, too, and Nicole wasn't too uncomfortable.

We also went to the Jubilations dinner theatre in West Edmonton Mall for our 15th anniversary on the 10th. Unlike the Mayfield dinner theatre, which tends to have over-the-hill stars doing Neil Simon plays and the like, Jubilations is more the fun musical revue with a thin, humorous, vaguely parodic plot. The best part was the fact that the servers were also in character--we were seeing "Emergency Room", so they were all patients or hospital staff. Even the main actors came out to help serve the actual meals, so I guess they're a mixture of actors to have to help wait tables and waiters who get to act. Anyway, lots of singing and dancing, though not to any original tunes, more things like "Doin' It Right On The Wrong Side of Town"(a song I now have to get a copy of, btw), "Doctor Doctor (Bad Case of Lovin' You)", etc. More effort went into the choreography than the writing, it seems. But it was still fun, and the food and entertainment was better than the silly riverboat ride we went on for our 10th(?) anniversary.

There's more to write about, but I'll stop here and try to split it up, and hopefully not put it off for two weeks again.
alfvaen: floatyhead (Default)
You know, I don't really want Simon to be a social recluse, who has no friends his own age. Even I had a friend or two in elementary school, though I didn't get any real friends until junior high, and then just the one, really. I'm not good at making or keeping friends, quite frankly. But I'm willing for Simon, who seems more extraverted anyway, to have some.

However, I confess I feel a little uncomfortable at the ones that keep dropping by this summer. Simon's friends from school don't live nearby, and with his lack of bike skills as well as telephone skills, they haven't been in much contact. Hopefully they'll reconnect in the new school year--friends at school I can handle. There's one boy, though, Mac, who lives just down the street and is a skilled bike rider(a skill Simon hasn't mastered yet). He comes by, I think, mostly because we happen to live nearby. However, I don't know that they share many interests in common. Mac--and, for that matter, most of the others of Simon's peers that I've talked to--seem to be Nintendo and hockey kids. Simon, of course, likes to read, and while he also likes computer games, it's mostly PC or Neopets games, which I don't think impress the other kids too much. I'd like it if he picked friends with whom he had more in common, rather than just trying to make friends with whoever's available and trying to find common ground. I suppose that's probably too limiting until there's a larger social circle to choose from, but still...

Listening to their conversations is often painful. I'm sure most six-year-olds have little in the way of social skills, and they have to learn them through practice--and probably practice with someone who hasn't known them all their life. But sometimes I'm half-convinced that children shouldn't be exposed to other children until they've all learned how to relate to adults.

Mac has started coming over with another boy named Kyle, who makes no bones about being completely bored and wanting to leave whenever they come over to Simon's. And yet while Mac's been sick this past week, Kyle's come over to visit anyway, though never for very long.

And while these strange kids are in the house, I don't know what to do. Should we be watching them to make sure they don't get into any mischief? Should we try to talk to them, or just ignore them and let Simon deal with them on his own? Sometimes they show up at odd times, just when we've got some family activity in the offing, or just before supper, or even just when we're about to have a normal evening(when Simon and Luke spend half of it with me and half with Nicole). There's also the fact that Mac has, more than once, gone off somewhere without telling his mom, who will phone here looking for him, because he's an hour late coming home. Simon is much more conscientious that way, thankfully, but I can't help but think of Mac as a "bad influence".

Maybe this is just normal parenting anxiety, but I can't help feeling a little out of my depth, not least because my own childhood doesn't leave me with many memories of how one makes friends...

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